Hello! It's been a while since you and I last had a chat. While I believe that it's probably for the best, you still seem to be making me part of your life. Now, I'm sure you'll disagree with that statement. However, take a step back and look: all that you've done since I decided to part ways is try to communicate with me both directly and indirectly. There was a moment where you and I almost resolved things, and in typical fashion I screwed it up. You and I had always had trouble communicating, and once you no longer believed I cared about you it was easy to take anything I said to the opposite extreme. I had a moment of selfish indulgence; You claimed that I hurt you, that every moment together was causing you pain, and yet I was not allowed to be hurt and need time to heal. To this day, I don't think you could admit how much you hurt me and how much pain I felt because of our parting. And I can understand this: someone has to be the bad guy. If there's no one to blame for what happened, it's harder to reconcile and make peace with yourself and the facts. And, of course, in everything you know about relationships and how dysfunctional they can be, it's always the man that walks out and ruins everything.
Indirectly, you've been pretty courageous hiding behind your keyboard. When you don't have to face someone and you're free to slander my name and my character through your snide remarks, it's easy to talk about how your moving on and making things better for yourself. But let's get real: when you're still talking about me 5 months or however long it's been later, you clearly haven't moved on. And it makes me sad. In talking to some of your 'friends' it has become very clear to me that you've got some problems that aren't being addressed by either you or these friends. It makes me sad, because I am realizing more and more that I really did leave you high and dry, which still hurts. That was never my intention.
So, in your most recent attack, you've sent out a warning. And that upsets me. I'm ok with you talking about how awful I was to you; you're right, I didn't do everything right, I gave up on us, and I got tired of trying. But you need to shut your mouth when you're talking about the nature of my character. I'm in a great relationship with a girl that loves me and understands and knows everything about me and still wants to be with me. She has turned my life around and reminded me that I deserve to be loved and I deserve to feel happy and that I deserve to enjoy my life. I don't want to take this time to bash you, because I think there are a lot of good things about you, and if there was ever something you needed I would be there to help you. But I cannot let you say things like this from behind your little keyboard and get away with it. If you have a problem with me and want to fight it out, come challenge me face to face. Most of all, attack the relationship, but how dare you attack me like this and once say you loved me.
That's all I've really got to say. Get over me and leave me out of your life. Oh, and I would really like my #12 Auburn jersey back.
Sincerely,
Ben
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